Tell us a bit about yourself…
At 33 (almost 34 eek!) I am a mum to my 3 year old daughter Bowie plus 3 little angels I never had the pleasure to meet. Time management has definitely become a huge part of my life since entering motherhood, I totally thought I had this down pre-child, ha! What did I know!?! Currently I am juggling staying at home full time as well as running a business. It can be tough sometimes trying to find the right balance.
I have this innate desire to help people which is why I studied as a Naturopath and Nutritionist. I started studying with a plan to help women with fertility issues, and walked out wanting to use my knowledge in a totally different way. After feeling like a mother with an identity crisis I decided to create Boom & Bloom — a space for mums who are finding their way in a world of attachment parenting, natural medicine and real food, but still want a modern life. I call it Naturally Modern Parenting.
The days seem to fly by, I do little bits of work whenever I can. To be honest, I sometimes resort to screen time for Bowie so I can get something done. Same when it comes to cooking dinner. I really love to cook and I enjoy having that time on my own to focus on creating a nourishing and delicious meal for my family.
We also do Playcentre, it is full on but super rewarding for both Bowie and me. I treasure the new friendships I have made since joining and have become very fond of the other children and enjoy watching them grow and progress.
And all the rest of the time, which is MOST of the time, Bowie and I spend our days playing shops, pretend cooking, rough housing, building duplo or blocks, reading, singing, dancing, shopping, going for walks, trips to the Zoo, MOTAT and Kelly Tarltons. Wow, sounds full on, and it is! But we love it.
What’s your favourite thing about being a Mum? The closeness, definitely the closeness. The cuddles, her wanting to hold my hand, looking into her eyes as she falls asleep and seeing those beautiful eyelashes fluttering to a close. It is truly the most special part of being a mum.
What’s the biggest thing you’ve learnt about yourself as a Mum / how have you changed since you became a Mum?
I did not always advocate for myself in the past but having a child meant I needed to suck it up and stand up for my daughter and myself whenever necessary. I guess I have learnt that I can do it. I can be confident and will stand my ground even when I feel like crumbling inside.
What’s your favourite way to spend time with your children?
From one end of the spectrum to the other, either getting outside and going on an adventure, or curling up on the sofa with some popcorn and watching a family movie, although Bowie only lasts about half an hour before she is running around!
Our favourite adventures would be seeing what we can find at the beach, kicking a ball around, walking in the bush and finding new playgrounds.
What’s your top tip for keeping happy and positive as a Mum?
Honestly, I am a bit different to many, I am in the “happy baby, happy mama” gang. Yes as a mum I need to be happy, but that doesn’t mean my child will be happy too. The first two years are vital I believe in nurturing a child to have a secure attachment. For me this meant pretty much working my life around her and her needs: breastfeeding on demand, co-sleeping and fitting life around her nap schedule. I really didn’t go out in the evening till Bowie was 2 and 3/4 because she needed me to help her get to sleep. And yeah sometimes it majorly sucked and it would be exhausting. But I don’t regret it. As soon as she was ready we started changing things slowly so that Anu could put her to bed and I could go out, I even went away over night!
But the things that kept me happy and positive were coffee, more coffee, some chocolate, a supportive husband, the company of good friends, breastfeeding hormones, even more coffee and the glorious sun!
How do you carve out some ‘me time’ into your life?
I take time whenever there is a chance, even if it is just 5 minutes to sit in the sun with a coffee and day dream. Now that Bowie is older and I can get out and about more I like to go and sit at the beach watching the waves, with a green juice or a coffee. I think I have made it clear that I am a coffee addict!
Aside from your family, what makes you truly happy in life?
Cooking for sure. Food is a big part of my life. Getting in the kitchen and creating delicious food for my family to enjoy, and knowing that each dish is made with love and care. It is so much more than just fuel, it makes us smile and delight with its intricate flavours and textures.
I also love getting into nature, just that feeling of peace and tranquility. Admiring the subtitles of the different species of leaves, watching waves crash and streams trickle. There is nothing more magical than mother nature.
Ps. I have a private group for women who love the idea of being a Naturally Modern Parent, no matter what stage of their journey… Check us out! https://www.facebook.com/ groups/naturallymodernparents/