My name is Ashleigh, I’m 30 years old, I have one husband, three kids (Paris 12, Miller 2, Arden 5 mths) & just inherited a puppy. I have been a mum now for nearly 13 years!! Crazy. Time really does fly when you don’t get much sleep! Outside of being a Mama I love to write my blog, practice yoga, pound the pavement & eat lots of delicious food! I am also in the beginning stages of starting a mama & sisterhood inspired clothing label, Eskimo Nell. I am working on it with a very special friend of mine (@themarnie on IG, check her out. Total smoke show). It was her very clever idea, she brought me on board and we have since been pouring our heart and soul into it. Our entire focus and vision of the brand is to unite Mama’s, place value on sisterhood, bring back the power of community, inspire woman and really just remind them how amazing they are and what an epic job they are doing raising their kids even when it doesn’t feel like it!
What’s your favourite thing about being a Mum?
Ahhhhh man, where do I start? I love so many aspects of motherhood but probably my favourite part is being able to go to “work” in my PJs. Haha, in all honesty I think it is the endless laughs, unconditional love & always having someone around. I mean I don’t even have to go to the toilet alone – and we all know how much women love to go to the bathroom in pairs!
What’s the biggest thing you’ve learnt about yourself as a Mum / how have you changed since you became a Mum?
That I don’t have to be perfect to be an amazing mum, I’m going to get it wrong sometimes, quite a lot actually, and that’s ok. I have a tendency to need/want everything to be perfect all of the time so it has been a huge learning curve for me to try to let the small shit go & not to beat myself up when it all turns to crap.
It’s hard to pinpoint how I’ve changed since becoming a mum seeing as I became a mum so young and essentially did most of my growing up alongside parenting my oldest daughter. But, I think I’ve noticed the most change since having Miller. Aside from eating every single word I have muttered about parenting, I have become a lot more confident & comfortable in my own skin & with my abilities as a mother & a women – thanks in most part to my husband being the world’s best cheerleader! He rules.
Oh, I have also learnt that I really, really, reeeeeallllllly love wine. Like, a lot.
What’s your favourite way to spend time with your children?
I’m a huge homebody so my favourite way to spend time with my kids is simply pottering around home. I love watching Miller muck around outside chatting to himself and exploring our backyard, using his imagination.
With Paris being much older than the other two kids I try hard to spend one on one time with her doing more mature things. It’s not always easy to find time with the two minis up in my grill twentyfoursev so sometimes it’s just curling up in her bed laughing at silly things together on YouTube.
What’s your top tip for keeping happy and positive as a Mum?
Honestly, my mum friends. They’re my lifeline, we keep each other real. The only downside of having a baby really young was not having a support network of other mums, it made it all very isolating and quite often it felt like my parenting problems were mine & mine alone. When you have a mum gang that you can send an SOS call out to, at any given time, you quickly realise that absolutely everyone, at one time or another, deals with the exact same shit. In a world where all you see is the highlight reel of people’s world that is so important.
How do you carve out some ‘me time’ into your life?
Yoga!! Yoga has changed my entire my life. I wrote a blog on it recently actually. The beauty of yoga is that it allows me to move my body, calm my mind & get some ME time all in one foul swoop. I can be having the worst day ever but as soon as I step through the door of my local yoga studio & hop onto my mat I have no choice but to let it all go, it is almost impossible to practice yoga & be in a bad mood – the power of the breath is really something extraordinary; it forces you to just BE! I love that the day just melts away & I forget how awful my kids were.
Aside from your family, what’s makes your truly happy in life?
Food, travel, experiences. My husband and I recently went on a trip to San Fransisco and it ignited this huge passion for seeing the world with him. We ate our way around San Fransisco, drunk our way around the Napa Valley & totally immersed ourselves in everything that San Fransisco has to offer. It was the most wonderful feeling and experience & brought us closer in ways neither of us expected. Even just thinking of our experience makes me cry little happy tears.
Other things that inspire me and make my heart sing are not quite as elaborate:
Nibbles and wine with friends – I believe something truly magical happens when you connect with people over wine and nibbles! Some of my most cherished relationships have started over food and wine.
Singing – I cannot sing to save my life but Goddammit I love to sing. If remembering lyrics were an Olympic support I would win gold. Singing makes me crazy happy!
Blogging – having three kids I don’t have as much time to blog as I would like but when I do get the time I am in my element. It is the best outlet for me!
Healthy eating – Cliche AF but when I eat well I live well. When I live well I am happy. My healthy ways have connected me with some amazing people, who make my heart smile & inspire me to be my best.
He Tangata, the people – I love people. I love talking. I love listening. I love connecting!!!!! Which takes me right back to my first point….
Here are all the ways you can find me:
Website: www.eskimo-nell.com (coming very soon!)